Often adoption can define people.
But I don't want that for Xiomara.
I want Christ to define her, not being adopted.
I want people to look at Xiomara and see her for who she is, not how she came to be.
I long for the day people will introduce us and say, "This is Chris, Vanessa, and their three girls." Right now, I hear, "This is Chris, Vanessa, their two own girls, and this is the girl they adopted."
I don't want people to treat her special or different because she is adopted or because they are afraid to hurt her feelings.
I long for her to be normal in the eyes of others.
For you see in our eyes, adoption does not define who she is. Yes, it is a part of her, but it isn't her. Her past is her past. It doesn't matter if her birthmom did or didn't use drugs or alcohol. It doesn't matter what her birthfather looked like or did. It doesn't matter why she was given up for adoption.
None of that defines her.
Instead, with her adoption came a new life. Adoption is one of the greatest examples of Christ's love for us in human form. He adopts us as His sons and daughters, just as we adopted Xiomara. He doesn't ask questions. He doesn't look for something wrong in each passing momement.
Instead He loved us, took us in, and called us His own. Adoption became part of who we are, but it doesn't define us. He does.
Are you letting adoption define someone you know in your life? Are you looking for them to fail because you have labeled them as adopted?