Saturday, June 26, 2010

A plea for prayers and help!

This morning we were able to have another wonderful phone conference with our birthmother. I am constantly amazed at the strength she has to place this child. Over the years, I've met many people who have had a lot of negative things to say about birthmoms, but I told her today that I will ever attribute to anyone, including this child, to thinking anything but the best about her. The love she has for this baby is far greater than I could even imagine. To be willing to give your child away to someone because you know you can't do it on your own, that is love. Sacrifice. Amazing.

As of now, we told her our plan is to come as soon as possible after the birth. She cried. It really is her hearts desire. Yes, we realize we are taking a risk. We don't want to get our hearts broken either. But, at this point, either way if she backs out, they will get hurt. We trust that God will heal them if they do. In the meantime, we are praying for Him to protect us and for this adoption to be completed.

We do have a couple of prayer requests. We had 2 grants tell us this week that they don't have money for us. That was a disappointment for sure. One of those, we can apply for again at any point before finalization. However, we found out tonight that we are getting another grant, which is a huge praise! We don't know the amount yet, but we are praying that God would be faithful in completing what He has called us to. We are NOT giving up hope that He can provide for every last penny for this adoption!!

That brings me to asking for prayers for travel again. We have to fly, we know that much. Our van, which would be the only vehicle we could drive down there is broken and we don't trust it to make it down there and back in one piece. Plus, Chris will have to fly back sooner and doesn't want me driving back alone. We ultimately decided not to take Zoelle. I'm sad about it, but with Chris coming home in a matter of days, she won't be without at least one of us for long.

I'm going to ask shamelessly here that if anyone has any frequent flier miles that they would be willing to donate for this cause, we would so appreciate it! It is looking like plane tickets on short notice could be quite expensive. Of course, God is bigger than that as well, and it is another prayer request that He could provide us with cheap tickets and stress free travel. There are so many logistics to still figure out with the travel, that we need prayer that God would make it all come together.

If any of you are willing to pray, we would so covet your prayers. I have had a few ask how they can help us. Honestly, financially is the best way right now. We truly believe that this adoption should and does not have to be done in debt. Otherwise, just keep praying and keep supporting us.

One more thing: talk to us about the adoption!!! Yes, I do not have a big belly on me, but I am still expecting a baby!! All you lurkers on here, this is you I am talking about. I do have a tracker on here and I know you read, yet you never comment. I treasure each comment and find such encouragement from them. So give me some comment love either on here or in real life! :)

Now, this mama to be is off to bed...


  1. Praying for you guys!!! I have not said much in a long time, but I am very happy for you! I can't wait to "meet" the new baby!!

  2. Be sure to call the airlines whenever you book your flights. Talk to the agent and tell them you're flying last minute for an adoption and ask if they can help you out. You never know what they may be able to do, and it certainly doesn't hurt to ask!

    I wish I had frequent flyer miles, but I don't. :( When the time comes, be very vocal about it on Facebook. Email me or PM me if you want, and I'll also post on Facebook to request FF miles for you. I know a lot of people who travel a lot, and maybe one of them can help you out.

    Lots of prayers for you guys!

  3. I'll be praying about your travels and the new arrival of a little one in your lives, Vanessa, and I'll be praying for your flight tickets as well.

  4. Nikia-Thanks so much girl! I can't wait for you to "meet" it either! :)

    Callie-We will definitely be calling the airlines to see if we can get some deals. Thank you too for offering to try and find some FF miles. That is so sweet of you. I appreciate our friendship!

    Linda-I know I've said it before, but thank you so much! It is definitely appreciated!

  5. Hi, I'm Razzie from the Pink Room, that's how I came to read your blog following your post about the frequent flyer miles. I must admit I am completely oblivious to the adoption journey and I don't know how it all works (especially as I'm in the UK and you're in the US?). Could you explain a little to me? I'd like to learn. Does it cost? How long is the process? Etc etc

    I wish you well on your journey and I really hope that you can get down as soon as possible and as easily and cheaply as possible. I am not a religious person so I don't pray but you are in my thoughts which I kinda think is amounting to the same thing :)

  6. Hi Sarah! :) I think it amounts to the same thing too so thank you! ;)

    There are many different types of adoption (domestic infant, foster to adopt, international). Each one is different in terms of time and money. We have chosen to go the domestic infant route. A typical domestic adoption cost is around $20,000! You start the process by getting a Home Study done. A home study is basically where an adoption agency does background checks, files paperwork, and has you create a profile book for a birthmom. They then send out your profile books to other agencies around the US. It is from there that a birthmom picks you. Our agency tends to have extremely fast placements. I think we are the exception though as we got pregnant right after we had started and then had to wait a bit after she was born to really jump in again.

    Hope that explains things some and let me know if you have more questions! :)

  7. So excited for you and thrilled you have chosen to go down right away. Sorry that Miss Zoelle won't be joining you, but all in God's plan and timing! :) I have no FF miles either...but do believe that God will provide exactly what you need exactly when you do. Proof of that is all around all of us. :)

  8. Teri Rae-It was actually your comments about fear that helped show us that God does not want us to live in fear. If we go down and she changes her mind, God will provide for us both emotionally and financially. He is in control! I'll miss my Little Z, but know that God has her in His hands and will help her adjust. So, so true about God providing exactly what we need when we need it most! Thanks!

  9. Yay!!! I'm so excited for you, Chris and the girls! We'll be praying for you!

  10. (Hugs) for you and your family. Check your Pink Room PMs ;)

  11. Thank you Laura! I so appreciate you! :)


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